Self-Talk

How do we beat the comparison trap? First, we begin with thankfulness. We look at the things God has done, is doing, and will continue doing in our lives. In the hard moments, we look for opportunities to choose praise and thankfulness and we make it a daily practice. And we spend time in God’s word. Paul told the New Testament followers that he had found the secret of contentment. His sole ambition was bringing glory to God, whether in life or in death.

Sarah’s anxiety created a reality that was completely untrue. She fed a lie, because of insecurity and anxious thoughts, and almost lost some real friendships. Anxiety is real and it doesn’t play fair or nice.

So how do we correct this? We must find a trustworthy God-honoring friend who we can confide in. Bringing light into the dark recesses of our mind is critical. Once we admit our untruth, we then seek to find God’s actual truth to replace that lie with. Then we place that roadblock of truth in our mind. Every time our self-talk swings to unrealities, we say no, that’s not the truth. God says I am fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139).

And what happens to our minds? We form narratives. Imagine what went through different brains during the restaurant scene.               If I can just get an opening, I can take him without causing harm.               Maybe if I’m quiet and submissive it will be over soon.               Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh. Oh my gosh.               Where are the kids? I’ve got to protect the kids. I can’t lose any of them.               Where’s my phone? I’ve got to call 911.